This past week

Well I know it has been a while since I updated…..and no my mother has not been an angel this whole time…..I forgot about this blog so I am here now to update.

This past week. Mother calls, wants oldest. I tell her because of my dh test, he had on a neurological test on Friday, that I didn’t think it best for him to go this particular weekend. I also informed her that once I got home with dh and let the sitter go home, that I was not leaving my sleeping dh to track oldest out to her house to spend night. I live in the city, she lives in the country. She doesn’t like driving in town to see us, it is tooo much of a drive.

To my point.

So she calls me and we are discussing his going to his grandmothers, with the Grandma. I explained I was not leaving my dh while he was still sedated. So she has a comeback of “well next weekend is Easter and with you all there never is a “good time” So I was not telling her NO the boy could not go, nor was I telling her that she could NOT come and get him…..but I was not “giving” information away….if she thought of it….it would happen.

So she drives in town to get the boy, by the time she gets here, he is complaining he does not want dinner and that his tummy hurt(now this could have been one of two things…..the child excited not wanting to eat…..or the child actually sick.)

So she drives in the drive, I explain the child is “feeling sick”, and I told her if he was truly sick, he might not be going….who would want to take a SICK kid???? I wouldn’t if he had a Mother to stay with….ha

So, we chat, we eat our dinner, and then we all run around the house getting certain movies the kid wants to take, I even went to the vehicle to get one out of the DVD player, and went out of my way to make sure he/she had everything they wanted for a perfect weekend.

She called later that night, she could not get a online-web-game to log on for the child….and stated that she could no longer talk to me as I was getting upset with her…..I stated back, no I am actually trying to help you and if you stay on the phone I can better hear and understand what the problem is with logging in. We got him logged in and he was playing before the call ended, to which I quickly said, it is 10:30 p.m. now, please don’t let him stay up all night playing the game online.

So to Sunday. Before church, we were having a special Dinner on the grounds and oldest had been looking so forward to it, but it had slipped my mind that it was in fact THIS sunday, so I called her before I left for church at 8:30 a.m. and explained that this was the Sunday he was sooooo looking forward to and that he would be disappointed if not here. She said want me to ask him what he wants to do? I said I guess so. Then she goes on, and says, “He told me yesterday that He did not want to go home.” Ok…..how many of you out there have grandparents? How many of you if questioned WOULD have wanted to go home???? Not me!!! But I can guarantee that my grandparents did not call my mom and tell her that I didn’t want to come home…..My Mother would have been upset if my grandparents would ever have told HER that…..but I believe she gets pleasure in hurting me. So I explained that I felt that way growing up with my grandparents and that it was a normal thing. TO which she explained hers were not around so she never experienced that feeling. So she calls back shortly and lets me know that he was not interested in the Dinner on the Grounds we were having. I was fine cuz it was his choice.

So after church, we explain that we are going out close to her house in the woods for lunch and she could meet us close to her house and “drop the kid” off. She said ok she would be there shortly.

She comes to the establishment. There are several other friends from church there and she makes small talk. Now her and my son had already eaten something before the drop off, and I knew this….but we are at an eating place. So I explain to dh I left my purse in the car and would he take the children to wash their hands…..she chimes in, Oh Nelson (oldest son) has already eaten. To which I chime back….”well he can still wash his hands…..and he can still mind me!” (She claimed later that this sent her into dreadful tears later) (But wait, shouldn’t I be the one in tears since she dissed me in front of my children????)(She later said, well he had eaten.,…..to which I explain, we got complimentary appetizers Onion Rings, and Mozarilla Sticks, and he ordered some French Fries. (So glad I listened to her….I am not going to deprive my kids of eating….and I know my kids…..10 minutes had passed….he was going to be hungry.)

So, she leaves the “shop”, we eat. All seems ok….well I call her on the way home, she again brings up the fact that Saturday my son stated he wanted to stay with her and not come home. Ok….I got it the first time you told me….this comment still haunts me today…..

So, we finish the drive home.

We come inside the house. I explain to the boy he needs to unpack his stuff. He comes running out of his room with DVD’s in hand and explains, I left the brand new DVD at Grandmother’s house. So I get him to call Grandmother. He tells her he left the new DVD, and he hands me the phone. (I didn’t want to talk to her about it….she overreacts to me saying just about anything)(example above of me telling son to wash his hands.) So she starts yelling at me, THE DVD IS NOT HERE !!!!! I said, well it is not in the case…..so you might just look. She was saying one more thing about the DVD, and ds was running out of his room with the DVD in hand….unprotected, from his bag, and said Oh MOM, it was in the bottom of my bag, to which I gasped NOT IN THE CASE????!!!! She starts yelling at me, “DON’T YOU YELL AT THE CHILD, IT IS MY FAULT!!! I PUT IT IN THE BAG!!! (Editors note: It just seems to me anyone over the age of 20 would put DVD’s in cases so as not to scratch them???!!!!———Maybe it is just me! So I could hear her tone, she was monotone with a hint of sarcasm. I try and get off the phone with her as quickly as I can.

I call her back to let her know I really was not upset with her….but that the child should have gotten the DVD back in the case. She is still dropping fast, and started in on me about how that I hurt her feelings at lunch, and that she had put the DVD in his bag to then have the child have her search for something else, and she forgot and evidently it dropped to the bottom of the bag and she was apologizing….and telling me it wasn’t worth all this she would just buy me another one….after I explained that if it was scratched that it would not play any longer. (No more dvd’s going to my mother’s house!!!!)

********I will edit this as I can…..I can’t remember all right now….maybe I have writer’s block, or mental block. HA

Towards the end of the conversation I told her we really only fought when she had one of my kids, so if that were the case, she would no longer get to have them on the weekends…..

And she also told him this weekend that when she retires she will not just have them on Fri/Sat nights, she would take them Thursday/Friday/Saturday/Sunday nights.  (Without my consent she tells the child all of this——and did I mention he needs to be in school?????)  He did however tell his grandmother……My Mom won’t go for this…….LOL…..smart boy!

Se-kurity (inside joke)

She also told me she can’t do anything right in MY eyes…..Hello????? Is ANYone home?????  I can’t do anything right in HER eyes….especially when it comes to MY kids…..I am always the wrong one.  When I was at her house several weeks ago…..anything I said to my kids, she was nudging me on the arm, like…..well you shouldn’t say that…..

She also told me that she was upset when she drove ALL the way to my house, and when she came in she was greeted with, “The child is sick, I don’t know if he will be going to your house.”…….so I sarcastically said, “I will try to make sure the children did not show any sign of punyness.

And her “timing” on getting her grandkids, is NEVER when it is convenient for us, it is when it is convenient for HER.  She keeps telling me that this is her outlet…..something to look forward to…..SHE had a bad week and needs to spend time with something that makes her feel worthwhile, SHE did this or that, and got it done, and NOW she wants her grandchildren.  Even at the church we are involved in, we have church functions…..and she has told me in the past she will keep them so they won’t have to go……WON’T HAVE TO GO?????!!!!!!!!!!!  Now when I NEED a sitter for all of my children….she won’t help.  Very seldom…..so I can’t even go out to eat with my dh alone, but she wants to keep them during a church function????????????  Makes no sense to me!!!!!!!!!

She told me Sunday this (being with my oldest ds) was her “light at the end of her tunnel…..she needed this at this time” (again, it was not because she loved him and knew she had not been with him in a while) it was because she had been stressed out.

She has even started questioning the kids about whose turn it is….they are keeping up now—they are getting older, and she argues with the littler guys telling them are you sure it was YOUR turn I thought it was your older brother’s turn.

OK…..I guess I am going thru 2 years of non-posting in this blog.  HA